Never Wear This on a First Date, According to a Matchmaker



Dressing for a first date can be a bit daunting. You only have one chance to make a great first impression, so whether you've been set up on a blind date or both swiped right, your first-date outfit can play a big role on the impact you make. Too often when it comes time to dress for a first date, we try on a series of ensembles, second-guessing our style and eventually hating everything in our wardrobes. First dates are anxiety-inducing enough without the pressure of picking the perfect outfit. So to alleviate the sartorial stressors of future first dates, we called in a professional for a lesson in first-date dressing.

We reached out to seasoned matchmaker Sherry Singer—previously on The Match Off and now running her nonprofit Sherry's Ark to build permanent housing for the homeless throughout California—to spill her first-date dressing rules. Singer's number one first-date outfit combo is heels with jeans and a beautiful top. "You can look beautiful in jeans and a blouse at any age," says Singer, and this straightforward formula allows for variations in style, age, and level of dressiness. But even with the ideal first-date outfit, there's breathing room. If you'd rather not wear heels, Singer says boots, even flat ones, work just as well as long as they're fashionable. Not into jeans? "If you are a dress girl, definitely wear that dress," says Singer. For an outing on a colder night, Singer swears by three jacket staples—leather, military, and a stylish blazer. 

Too noisy is distracting, and you're not focused on the person.

As for the pieces to steer clear of? Singer says there's one color to avoid wearing on a first date. "Definitely not orange," she says. "I think it's distracting." Instead, seek out colors that complement your skin tone. Light and even bright colors pop on darker skin and deeper shades look lovely on fairer skin. If you're wearing prints, Singer advises that they not be too busy. "Too noisy is distracting and you're not focused on the person." The same rule goes for jewelry, which Singer notes "should always be conservative—not too loud, not too big, not too bold." It's best if your accessories complement your outfit rather than making their own statement. "When you're going on a date you want to focus on the person, not the jewelry," explains Singer. "You want them to say, 'That looks nice on you. Now tell me more about you.'"

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