How to Dress Like a Birkin Mom When You Don't Have the Budget for a £20k Bag

There are so many extraordinary things in this life that money simply cannot buy. Equally, there are many extraordinary things that can only be yours after money has been exchanged. Sadly, a Birkin bag falls into the latter category. Topping the wish lists of fashion people across the globe, there may be no other material item more highly coveted than the inimitable Hermès Birkin handbag, nor harder to get your hands on. Named after French style icon Jane Birkin, the bag is widely regarded as one of the classiest on the market and one of—if not the most—exclusive. Whilst the resale of Birkin bags is less strict (though you can still expect to pay a premium), buying one new is a lengthy process, with huge demand, unpredictable stock levels, Hermès sales assistants and yet more hurdles standing between you and that bag.

If you're lucky enough to be approved to buy one (yes, you can be refused), there's no guarantee the assistant will offer you the colour or finish you want either—I've heard of people asking to purchase the black colourway only to be presented with a pink option at the checkout. All of this only adds more mystery to the legend of the Birkin. Whilst the closest many of us will get to a Birkin bag is adding them to our vision boards (I, for one, fall into this category), there is a group of fortunate fashion devotees who count themselves as owners of the exclusive arm candy. Of that group, there is a subset of Birkin owners that the internet has fondly dubbed "Birkin moms".

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Being a Birkin mom goes beyond owning a Birkin bag. It's the confidence of knowing you possess something that everybody else wants, and with that disposition, you carry yourself differently. With an affluence that announces itself without having to say a peep, being a Birkin mom is a full-time style commitment. You need to look glossy 24/7. Defined by their 

quiet-luxury outfits and refined taste—think Kelly Rutherford's Lily van der Woodsen, or ski-trial-era Gwyneth Paltrow—Birkins might be reserved for a lucky few, but their style needn't be. 

Whilst Birkin owners can likely treat themselves to a full wardrobe in keeping with the luxury bag, the rest of us have some corners to cut. So, I've taken it upon myself to glean what I can about the Birkin mom aesthetic and lay down how to get the look, no matter your budget. Read on to find out exactly what I discovered.

6 WAYS TO CHANNEL THE "BIRKIN MOM" AESTHETIC

1. BE SELECTIVE WITH YOUR FABRIC CHOICES

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Style Notes: A true Birkin mom understands the nuances of fabrics and the difference that they can make to an outfit as a whole. In the winter you'll catch her bundled up in cashmere and alpaca. In the summertime, you'll find her clothed in light linen and soft cotton. 

2. SEEK OUT EXCELLENT TAILORING 

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Style Notes: A well-tailored ensemble can set your look apart, and Birkin moms know this. Think well-cut trousers, neat shoulders and considered details, and don't shy away from a trip to the tailors to give a new buy the finesse it deserves.

3. DON'T BE AFRAID TO WEAR YOUR BEST JEWELS

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Style Notes: Birkin moms know that when it comes to jewellery, more is more. Stacked rings and layered bangles are a day-to-day look you should embrace wholeheartedly.

4. MASTER YOUR LAYERING

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Style Notes: The key to an excellent, expensive-looking outfit lies in the layers. To ensure that your layered outfit looks fresh and comfortable, opt for fine knits or soft fabrics and throw in a tailored element to elevate the look.

5. CONSIDER YOUR COLOUR PALETTE

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Style Notes: A refined colour palette is one of the pillars of sophisticated styling. Opt for elegant neutrals such as beige, black and grey tones, and throw in decadent shades such as burgundy or emerald to enhance your outfit.

6. IT'S ALL IN THE BAG

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Style Notes: Although many of us long for a Birkin, there are a myriad of handbags on the market that can emulate the feel. Recent months have seen top-handle bags dominate for their elegant silhouette, but a shoulder-strap bag can look just as chic when styled with the right outfit.

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News Writer

Natalie Munro is Who What Wear UK’s news writer. Previously freelance commerce writer at British Vogue, Natalie’s experience spans journalistic and styling roles, which have seen her work on shoots for publications such as British Vogue, Vogue Ukraine, AnOther Magazine and Elle UK and write for publications including British Vogue and Conde Nast Traveller. With an interest in uncovering the latest fashion trends, Natalie takes a leading role in identifying news and trends for Who What Wear UK, with a particular focus on celebrity style and emerging fashion trends.