The Official Dos and Don'ts of Black-Tie Attire for Women

If you're headed to a formal event with a strict dress code, you've landed in the right spot. Cocktail attire, semiformal, white-tie attire—ring any bells? While all the aforementioned dress codes read "fancy," what's really the difference between them all? Are there strict rules? If so, what are they? Well, today, we're here to take a deep dive into one dress code, in particular, and that would be black-tie attire for women.

To get a second opinion on the matter, we reached out to celebrity stylist Sarah Nearis for her expert opinion. Let's be honest: If there's anyone who knows a thing or two about formal dressing, it's her. "Some people dread black-tie events, but they are my favorite because it gives me an excuse to go all out. I love the opportunity to get glammed up, but there are some dos and don'ts when it comes to black-tie events," says Nearis. We're curious to discover what they are. Read on as she walks us through her official dos and don'ts on appropriate wedding black-tie attire for women. Take notes, people—we promise this will come in handy one day.

Dos and Don'ts

Don't: Wear a Short Dress

Do: Go Full-Length

"While black tie doesn't necessarily mean you have to wear a full-length gown, if you've been waiting for the right opportunity, now is your chance. If you choose to wear something that doesn't go all the way to the floor, an appropriate length is something a little below the knee."

Don't: Wear Casual Shoes 

Do: Keep Footwear Elegant

"When it comes to footwear, have some fun, but keep it classy and chic. If you're wearing a gown, this is an opportunity to wear your highest heels, but make sure they are comfortable and offer you plenty of support. You'll be socializing and standing a good amount of the night, so comfort is key to helping you enjoy your night. Regardless of the length of your dress, a black-tie event isn't the ideal setting for anything of crazy color or overly sexy straps. It's important to choose the perfect shoes that best accentuate your outfit. Crazy platform pumps or lace-up-to-the-knee sandals should be left at home."

Don't: Take the Code Too Literally

Do: Familiarize Yourself With the Dress Code

"FYI—a black dress is not required. I recommend sticking to rich jewel-tone colors and nothing too bright."

Don't: Forget to Accessorize

Do: Bring Out the Jewels 

"The nicer the event, the better the excuse to rock some of your finer pieces of jewelry and accessories. This is the perfect opportunity to wear that vintage necklace or cocktail ring. If you don't have a stash of jewels, I love wearing glitzier accessories, like a pump or clutch that has some sort of stone or jewels on it. I love Roger Vivier clutches and shoes for occasions like this!"

Don't: Expose Too Much Leg

Do: Opt for a Dress With Other Flattering Details

"This kind of event isn't best to show them off. Black tie calls for a longer, more sophisticated hemline, so the minidresses will have to sit this one out."

FAQs

What exactly does "black tie" mean?
Black tie is one of the most formal dress codes, typically calling for floor-length gowns or elevated cocktail dresses. For men, it usually means a tuxedo, but for women, there's more flexibility. It's sophisticated and traditional, making it the standard for events like weddings, galas, and fancy dinners.

What should I avoid wearing to a black-tie event?

Anything that feels too casual should be off the table—like sundresses, denim, linen, or overly trendy pieces that don't naturally come off as eveningwear. Accessories can make or break your look, so daytime shoes, like flat sandals, and beachy jewelry are worth skipping. The most important thing to remember is that even if your event is formal, it's still important to feel comfortable in what you put on for the day. Any dresses that are so fussy you can’t sit, dance, or move comfortably in them should be avoided. A dress like that would work for dinner or a photo shoot, but not an event where you're moving about. If it doesn't make you feel confident from within, it's worth skipping.

How can I predict how formal the event will be?

Pay attention to the details. If the venue is elevated and the invite was impeccably designed, it's going to be quite the formal affair. If you were invited via text message or an e-invitation, you'll have less to worry about. Don't be shy. Ask another guest or the host what they suggest wearing. They'll likely be glad you asked and excited to chat back and forth about the upcoming celebration.

Why Trust Us

At Who What Wear, firsthand experience is everything. Lauren Eggertsen, Sierra Mayhew, and Sarah Nearis have attended countless black-tie events over the years, from weddings to galas to fashion month, making them trusted voices when it comes to navigating formal dress codes with ease. The result? A black-tie dress code explainer that you can trust.