As a single person in the world of Bumble, Raya, and countless other dating apps, it has been interesting observing just how quickly they have changed the dating scene. People are much less likely to ask me out in person like they used to—even just in the span of the few short years since these apps have been around. One theory I have is because it’s easier to face rejection from the comfort of your own living room. If someone swipes left on you or doesn’t reply to a message, it’s doesn’t have the same effect as getting turned down in person. And it’s interesting because now I’m actually stunned (though pleasantly surprised) when someone has the courage to strike up a conversation and ask me out in person.
Recently, though, I was asked out on a couple of dates—in person. Once on a Sunday afternoon trip to the farmers market and the next while standing in line for a salad at Sweetgreen. What surprised me in both cases, aside from the rarity of said scenario, was that I happened to be wearing the same thing both times. In each scenario, I was wearing a slip-skirt outfit—specifically involving a leopard-print style that has quickly become my summer staple.
The first time I was asked out
Here's the first time I wore the skirt: an outfit for the weekend, when I was trying to tap into Italian style with a mini makeover. After stopping by the farmers market in West Hollywood, I was taken aback when I was asked on a date while shopping for some local California produce.
The next time I was asked out, I was wearing a much more casual outfit. Instead of a fitted top and heels, it was a T-shirt and sneakers. But after striking up conversation with someone in the line to get a salad at Sweetgreen, I was asked out again while wearing the very same skirt.
I can’t say for sure if it was the skirt or just a coincidence, but I’m interested to test it out again sometime soon. As much as I thrive on social media and all things digital, to me, there’s nothing that can replace some good old-fashioned human interaction that starts out in the real world.