Many of the fashion-forward staffers said that too-big engagement rings are not stylish, and that subtlety is a much chicer approach. "I have found that I am perpetually drawn to women who wear subtle, interesting jewelry. Why would you want a ring that would make you feel uncomfortable wearing it to the grocery store?" said one editor. Hey, if you're going to wear it forever, you may as well stick with something unique that speaks to your style.
Another editor believes that over-the-top rings are just plain too much. "When you start to approach Mariah Carey territory, you might want to take a step back. You're about to lay down more than most people's salary on a diamond. When was the last time you donated to charity?" A third editor pointed out that a flashy ring could mean you're just a show-off. "If you go out and buy something gigantic—the ring equivalent of a McMansion—it always reads to me as you've got something to prove."