"Dressing for girls, not guys": This is an idea you may or may not have heard of before. Personally, I have been familiar with the notion for quite some time. It really started making me think when I was younger, probably around junior high or high school. Growing up, I always dressed a little differently than other girls. There would always be a comment here or there about my outfit, whether it was good or bad, and no matter what the comment was, I didn't care. I always dressed (and still do) in a way that suited me and made me feel the most confidant; it didn't matter what other people thought.
As I got older and girls started caring more and more about what boys thought of them, I found that although attention from boys wasn't necessarily a bad thing, I never let that affect how I dressed every day. Other girls would notice this and say things like, "You know boys think high-waisted shorts are weird, right?" and "Guys hate those loose maxi dresses girls wear, so why do you wear them all the time? I guess you just dress for girls and not for guys."
For a while, I thought that was true. A compliment on my See by Chloé color-block midi dress from a woman on the street meant way more to me than a guy telling me I looked nice that day. With that said, it didn't matter if I received validation on my outfit, what mattered was how I felt in it. Period.
From the quirky details in a look that girls tend to notice to the inner confidence it takes to dress however the heck you want to, I decided to pick the brains of my fashionable colleagues to see what they thought. Not to my surprise, we pretty much all landed on the same conclusion.
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"To me, the meaning of dressing for girls is to care more about looking forward and stylish than looking stereotypically feminine or sexy. I have noticed, however, that while there was a time that this meant dressing only for girls, it seems to me that now that more and more guys are starting to appreciate and embrace this, too—at least the ones with good taste!"
"I dress for myself, not other men or women. I choose pieces that I think are interesting and that I feel comfortable in. I think once you reach a place where you're not aiming to please other people with the way you look, you become your most confident!"
"Traditionally speaking, it seems women notice more details about an outfit than men. While a man may compliment a general ensemble, women are more keen to compliment specific items in your overall look, be that the specific gem in your new necklace, the unique hemline on your skirt, etc. That being said, there are some men that do notice those details (hello, me), so dress for everybody!"
"Dressing for girls, not guys, is essentially referring to the liberation that comes when you stop dressing to impress men and start dressing to be the woman you want to become. But ultimately it doesn't matter if it's a girl or guy who likes what you're wearing, so long as you do."
"Personally, I don't naturally gravitate toward those Man Repeller–esque pieces like culottes, baggy overalls, and the like. I'll take flattering skinny jeans over drop-crotch sweatpants any day, so I guess that means my style is just inherently more guy-friendly. However, it's not something I consciously think about—I've just always subscribed to the if-it-looks-good-on-me-I'll-wear-it philosophy, and this tends to exclude the more unflattering trends. But of course there's nothing wrong with girls wanting to experiment with trends that their peers are wearing, even if it means guys won't necessarily approve. Just do you!"
"Call me selfish, but I've always dressed for myself. If you feel comfortable and confident in what you're wearing, no one else's opinion (male or female) should matter."
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