Why One Vogue Contributor Thinks Getting Engaged In Your 20s Is Sad

Meghan Blalock

Generally speaking, most people can probably agree that marriage is not a decision to be made or taken lightly. And yet, the irony that many, many people get engaged in their 20s—a decade when most of us are still maturing, learning, and generally figuring things out—is not lost on us.

Nor is it lost on the editors over at Vogue, who just published an essay by contributor Liz McDaniel—also the head of communications for none other than Diane von Furstenberg—titled "Why I’m Secretly Sad for Women Who Get Engaged in Their Twenties." In it, she presents a very interesting perspective, because she herself was engaged at the age of 24.

​"I was engaged at the age of 24," she writes. "And I recently married at the age of 33. So I know the difference a little time can make. At 24, I had no career to speak of, only a journal I scribbled in and a few bylines in the Home & Garden section of the local paper. My most consistent paycheck came from my fiancé’s parents, along with a few suggestions on how we should live our lives. [So when he proposed to me], suddenly I had a fiancé, a dress, and a date; all of the things I was supposed to want. But I was hardly a hopeful bride-to-be."

She goes on to describe how she eventually left her fiancé behind for New York, where she found herself heartbroken, but free. She describes the difference in how she viewed marriage in her 20s (as a series of limiting factors), and how she views it now that she's in her 30s (as an enriching and amazing experience).  

Head to Vogue to read the intriguing essay for yourself. We'd love to hear your thoughts: What do you think about people who get engaged and married in their 20s? Sound off in the comments below!

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